Friday, November 27, 2009

My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothe

she has clothes that he just got her and she always send the little boy the same way and everytime she drops them off its always between 9-11pm what should i do



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

Tell your boyfriend to take custody of them?



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

As the "other woman" there is nothing you can do. If you were married, you may be able to cross that line, but not as dad's girlfriend. Talk to him and ask him to talk to her, but there is nothing you can do without his cooperation.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

Clean up the kids and ask for the clothes.



Ya keep the ones you bought.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

Your boyfriend should address it, not you.



He should insist that the mother clothe the child appropriatley and return her at a decent hour or refuse to send her over there.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

nothing you can do but wash 'em and clothe them the right way while they're with you. they'll learn on their own which way is right. the mom's a lost cause



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

Talk it over with your boyfriend. Without clothes and uncombed hair at night? oh my gosh! Maybe your boyfriend's kids should stay with you guys.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

keep the clothes that he buys the kids at his house. Send the kids home the way they came over.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

Find a new boyfriend.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

Tell your b/f to tell her to send their clothes with them, if he doesn't then get some money from him and go buy them some clothes and keep them at your house and let them wear them while they are there.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

Support your boyfriend without putting down his ex. She is the loser. You can look good by helping these children get cleaned up...



Brownie points for you ...



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

I would talk to your boyfriend first and see if he's noticed the problem too. If so, he should speak to his ex and tell her that it's unacceptable. If he won't, you could just confront the ex directly, but that may be awkward if you two don't know each other well.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

talk to her let her know whats going on...



this is not right...



seriously, you need to talk to her...



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

I don't suggest you do anything other than keeping clothes at your boyfriend's house for the children when they are there. Your boyfriend needs to be the one to confront his children's mother and lay down some guidelines.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

Your boyfriend needs to get up in her "grill" about that. It would NEVER be tolerated by my boyfriend or myself.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

give them a bath, comb their hair. Buy them clothes and keep the clothes at your place



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

Sounds like you all need counceling, call dr. Phil



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

When you purchase clothes keep them at your place when she/he goes back to her mothers.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

Take care of the kids the best you can...and teach them to take care of themselves, since their mom won't.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

You should do nothing. They are not your kids. Your boyfriend....who is the father has the responsiblity to talk with the mother and find out what is going on. If legal action is required it is up to him to do so.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

She will always be their mother and you should avoid looking like you are coming between them and her. When the kids are with you and your boyfriend, just make sure they are clean, dressed well and their hair is combed.



If you have them overnight, let them help you layout the outfits for the next day with comb and toothbrush. They will appreciate the involvement and attention you give them.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

Well, for starters why does she bring the kids in those conditions? And at that time of night? Also, what does your bf have to say about that? You should ask him what's the deal with that situation.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

I know you won't like this but keep your mouth shut. Unless you see physical abuse that is. This is between them. He needs to grow a back bone or he is choosing his battles. What maybe a big thing to you might not be a big thing to him.



You be the best friend they can have. That is the most important job you'll have with those kids. This coming from a child of divorced parents and a mother. So i would know a little about being in both of those positions.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

Stay out of it



ITs the father of the child's problem with the mother of his children



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

You need to keep the clothes he buys for her. My 12 yr old lives with her father adn I can tell you that he is not required to send clothes with her per our custody agreement. What she wears at my house is MY responsibility. His may be the same way. Either way, keep those clothes unless he is requried to purchase them for the children. If mom can not keep them properly clothed, he can report it to DCF/HRS whatever they are called in your state.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

There isn't alot YOU can do, but there is alot your boyfriend can do if he cares enough to do it. He can take her to court and get a lawyer. If those children are leaving the house in unfit conditions, that's a big step to proving her to be an unfit mother. Start keeping a journal of all the times she does something wrong towards those children. IE. bringing them out at all hours of the night, no shoes, no clothes, unkempt, unwashed, hungry. And also log if she threatens your boyfriend (Things like "Im never letting you see them again) Lawyers appriciate these things because it puts everything in order for them. Also because things can be forgotten when you are trying to recall them on a later date.



If you aren't willing to go to court about it try picking the children up yourselves, and insisting that they leave the house in a reasonable manner, with the things they had one when they went there.



Good Luck.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

do whatever you can to let the kids know that youll treat them better than that and that youll always take care of them



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

You shouldn't do anything, you should stay out of it as it doesn't concern you. When the child gets there you can comb the hair and put clean clothes on if its ok with dad. Dad should have his own set of clothes if the kids come on a regular basis, as for coming so late that is something Dad needs to work out with mom if he feels as though its a problem. You are going to cause major problems if you get in the middle. Trust me, I am a single mom and I have been on both ends.. dating someone else with kids and dad dating someone else with kids. Its nobodies business but mom and dad. IF you are married it MIGHT be a different story! Good luck



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

Personally, I think what you should first do is find out what your bf thinks about this situation. I mean, off top, they're his children, feel me. If he allows this to happen, what can you do? I understand that you care about these kids, but to be real, you're on the outside. They have to discuss this and come to a conclusion. I wouldn't advise you to get into the mix, doing so could create confusion and make you and your bf's relationship stressful. It's not your responsibility.



Hope all works out....



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

Are the 9-11pm hrs court ordered? why so late?..if not court ordered, and its not being done because she has a night job, he should be documenting it all...As far as the hair not being combed and no clothes,...if it is getting too expensive for the father to keep buying them clothes and they keep coming back with no clothes,...Let him buy some, keep those, wash the ones they come with and put the old ones back on them when they are being returned...Hopefully he is keeping receipts for all these clothes he is buying...It is important to keep records.



As his girlfriend, it's a tough situation. But either you support him or not. They are his kids, and if you choose to stay with him and deal with the children situation, you should help him with making sure he documents everything.



When it comes to being involved with a man that has kids already, it's usually a tough situation, but what it all comes down to, is how you can cope with it, whether you want to deal with it, how much you can take.....it will be stressfull between you and him if he doesn't set some boundaries and rules with the children's mother... Good luck



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

Sounds like the mother either doesn't care for her kids or is probably a drug addict. Either way she sounds like a loser to me. Take care of the kids while they are with you, buy them nice clothing and keep them at your house. Wash their dirty clothing and put them back on the kids when they go back to their mother. Tell your b/f to talk to the loser and tell her to straighten up her act or he should go to court and get full custody. good Luck.



My boyfriend has kids and the mom always send the daughter without her hair being comb and no clothes?

There's nothing you can do. It's up to your bf to lay down rules about visits. If he won't, then he'll just have to get some extra clothes and keep them at your place. If he wants to dictate the drop-off time, then Dad should pick them up, rather than waiting for Mom to bring them to you.

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